Monday, January 18, 2016

How to Blog Without Offending Readers

Being a blogger is hard, I don't think people realize how taxing it can be to put yourself out there. With each post, I put a little more of myself out there into the world, and sometimes the feeling of accomplishing a post is not enough to fill that hole back up. Sometimes, the kind comments I receive are not enough to equal the bravery it took to write the post in the first place. 

It's so easy for a reader to quickly skim a post and then rattle off a sassy comment or reply on a post I spent hours agonizing over and to be honest... that's just not fair to me as a writer.

I started blogging close to 8 years ago to share with my family in Georgia what life was like in Utah. That's it! Over the years as chronic illness, marriage, and infertility came into my life suddenly I was talking about topics that mattered to people. I started connecting with readers who were too scared to share their own stories, but enjoyed reading mine. It helped them know their feelings of resentment, bitterness, or funny marriage experiences were all apart of this amazing thing called life! 

Unknowingly I have offended many people, but I've also brought comfort to others. In a way, it doesn't really matter what I have to say on Southern Hope, readers are going to read what they want and grab hold of what they want to focus on the most. It doesn't matter if I try to bring up a topic that's really personal to me like infertility or share some of my favorite reads for the month. It doesn't matter that I try to speak about how the Biblical Christ has brought grace, happiness, and freedom into my life, somehow a reader will take that as offensive to their own beliefs. It's like I can't just be who I am, write about my life, without someone sitting at their computer picking apart
every
single
thing 

write. 

As a hypersensitive person, that's hard for me. Over the past year I've hovered over the delete blog button multiple times. I just want to be done with it, because for me what happens inside this little town, inside of my sweet home is all that truly matters to me. But something brings me back to it. 

One day, I know it will be over for me, but not now. 

At the end of the day, if I tried to write a post that catered to each reader, then I wouldn't be staying true to myself. I wouldn't be sharing the realness of life, I would be sugar coating, lying, and that's now how a writer expresses herself.

I'm struggling to find a new voice for the blog, I feel many changes in my heart and mind, sharing that though is hard knowing again there is someone sitting at their computer picking apart 
every 
single
thing 

write. 

What makes this blog worth it to me and why I keep coming back to writing is that one email I hang onto from a reader who just needed those words... That's God working in my life and sometimes my words might offend others, to that I say...
Don't read it. 
Skip to another post of mine, or if I really truly am terrible then go read another blog. 
 
Good vibes and good people are invited to stay at Southern Hope, I know I can't write a post that will give 
every 
single 
person 
the one thing
that need for the day. 

But to be honest, there's only one person who can do that for you and it's you. 
You control what you read, you also control how you react to it. 
Look for the positive and you'll find you are always happy.

Reader Question: Why do you blog? 


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