Monday, June 29, 2015

YOU are a Warrior!

Hello everyone, I am Kenji from Kenji is Here! I believe that in all circumstances in life you can find happiness. My goal for my readers is to leave being inspired and optimistic. If I am not blogging about life or positivity you can finding me blogging about my struggles and successes with Rheumatoid Arthritis. At the end of the day I just want to have a good time and throw a dance party. If you're ready to bust a move I'll meet on the dance floor...or at my blog!
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A little over a year ago, in May of 2014, I was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis. As you may know this is something that connected Whitney and myself. Having other friends with a chronic illness has been one of the biggest blessings to cope with RA. Having someone who knows EXACTLY what you're going through helps take the weight off your shoulders in tough times. While we become accustomed to our "new normal" there will still be times when we have bad days and need someone to turn to. This is where Whitney and a few other "spoonies" come into play. Whitney is used to my emails now. I always turn to her whenever I want to make sure I'm not going crazy for something that's going wrong with my RA. She's a true blessing.
I have talked a little about the things I've learned from being diagnosed with RA for a year but one thing that sticks out the most that not only people with RA can relate to but others with chronic illnesses, I am sure have dealt with as well. That is hate talk.
While I have been diagnosed for a year, I had been dealing with pain for a long while before that. Once I received a diagnoses it was as if someone had handed me a golden ticket. I felt as if I had all my answers answered but in reality I knew nothing. I was very vocal about my RA, not only was I looking for answers but I was advocating because it became clear that many people did not know what RA was.
This came with some backlash. There was talking of me faking my RA, that I was a hypochondriac, that I just wanted attention name it, I've heard it. I recoiled and I pulled back a lot. I stopped talking to everyone about it. I acted as if everything was hunkey dorey and never spoke about RA unless I was asked. This was until I realized that what a handful of people said about me didn't dictate my life.
It wasn't until one day I realized that I wasn't who they said I was and most importantly, these people didn't know what I was going through. I knew I was not faking my illness and I knew the pain I endured everyday. There was a time where I was upset at these people but now I just want them to know that they don't know me and they don't know you. The people that are saying these things don't know your struggle. You, and only you know what you go through every day and how you are effected by your illness.
Know that at the end of the day you are not what people say. You are strong for living with a chronic illness, you are inspirational to all others who have chronic illnesses as well, and you are allowed to complain when you are in pain because those of us with chronic illnesses get it. We know you are not complaining for attention and we know that it is a cry for help. The things that someone who does not know your struggle says should not be what dictates your life. Yes, it's hurtful and it can bring us down but rise above because YOU are a warrior and everyday you are stronger for living with a chronic illness. YOU inspire me to push forward. YOU help me everyday to know I am not alone. YOU unknowingly are helping people everyday.
Be who you are. Wear your chronic illness with pride. We already have to live everyday with it, why not use it to rise above. Remember that you are strong and what someone else says about you is not true.
You are a warrior! Don't let anyone tell you otherwise!

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