Friday, May 15, 2015

Want To Know My Secrets?

Have you ever taken a personality test? WOW, so exciting. Try one out HERE

According to the test, I'm an ENFJ. If you want to know ME, it is amazing how accurate these tests are to who I am or how I feel about life. So if you want to know my deepest darkest secrets..... read on! 



  • Tolerant - ENFJs are true team players, and they recognize that that means listening to other peoples' opinions, even when they contradict their own. They admit they don't have all the answers, and are often receptive to dissent, so long as it remains constructive. (YES) 
  • Reliable - The one thing that galls ENFJs the most is the idea of letting down a person or cause they believe in. If it's possible, ENFJs can always be counted on to see it through. (Absolutely) 
  • Charismatic - Charm and popularity are qualities ENFJs have in spades. They instinctively know how to capture an audience, and pick up on mood and motivation in ways that allow them to communicate with reason, emotion, passion, restraint - whatever the situation calls for. Talented imitators, ENFJs are able to shift their tone and manner to reflect the needs of the audience, while still maintaining their own voice. (My dad loves it when I do imitations, but I get shy around others. Family only please). 
  • Altruistic - Uniting these qualities is ENFJs' unyielding desire to do good in and for their communities, be it in their own home or the global stage. Warm and selfless, ENFJs genuinely believe that if they can just bring people together, they can do a world of good. (Yep, THIS exactly) 
  • Natural Leaders - More than seeking authority themselves, ENFJs often end up in leadership roles at the request of others, cheered on by the many admirers of their strong personality and positive vision. (And that scares the H*** out of me!) 


  • Overly Idealistic - People with the ENFJ personality type can be caught off guard as they find that, through circumstance or nature, or simple misunderstanding, people fight against them and defy the principles they've adopted, however well-intentioned they may be. They are more likely to feel pity for this opposition than anger, and can earn a reputation of naïveté. (And it hurts my feelings for days... my poor husband) 
  • Too Selfless - ENFJs can bury themselves in their hopeful promises, feeling others' problems as their own and striving hard to meet their word. If they aren't careful, they can spread themselves too thin, and be left unable to help anyone. (Yep, dealing with this weakness/problem currently) 
  • Too Sensitive - While receptive to criticism, seeing it as a tool for leading a better team, it's easy for ENFJs to take it a little too much to heart. Their sensitivity to others means that ENFJs sometimes feel problems that aren't their own and try to fix things they can't fix, worrying if they are doing enough. (That's why I adore this book) 
  • Fluctuating Self-Esteem - ENFJs define their self-esteem by whether they are able to live up to their ideals, and sometimes ask for criticism more out of insecurity than out of confidence, always wondering what they could do better. If they fail to meet a goal or to help someone they said they'd help, their self-confidence will undoubtedly plummet. (Sadly this is so true, so very true)
  • Struggle to Make Tough Decisions - If caught between a rock and a hard place, ENFJs can be stricken with paralysis, imagining all the consequences of their actions, especially if those consequences are humanitarian. (Yep, I've written MANY pros and cons list over the years, I never take a step without weighing out every single option first)
So what about you Southern Hope readers?! I'd love to hear what your personality type is and how you felt after getting the results! 
Share in the comments below!

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