Friday, November 30, 2012

In This Life

I can often be heard complaining about our small family. Family photos consist of the two of us, four with Sunny and Milo. The pets add a little more to a picture of two people. Even with parents or in laws or cousins, we are nothing compared to some larger family photos.  

I can often be heard judging others too harshly or being quick to speak mean words. I can become impatient, irritable, and short tempered. I can take advantage of the healthy relationships I have and make the choice to build them up or destroy them. 

I can often be heard complaining about us not having children yet. Scratch that, not often, frequently... Our house isn't full of those cute things kids say or toys littering the floor. We don't know what it feels like for them to have their daddy's eyes or have spit up on our clothes...That hasn't happened for us, yet. 

However, I can never been seen eating 
alone.
hiking a trial
alone
going to a movie
alone.
or driving through Christmas lights.
alone

This past weekend we had dinner at a restaurant that had coupons for the lights show. There we all were, bundled up with rosy cheeks excited to see the lights, R was sipping on a Peppermint Milkshake. 
A couple minutes later a man sat down across from us with chicken nuggets and waffle fries. He spread his food out in front of him and began to eat. 
We looked around for his person, for the friend or spouse to join him. 

He was alone. 

He didn't look like he wanted to be alone, and had the look of being comfortable with alone

Later, when we were driving through on our second trip through the lights we drove past a woman in her car.  

She was alone. 

She was stopped, taking pictures with her iPhone of the lights, then driving a little further to take another shot. There were no kids in her backseat giggling and pointing, there was no partner beside her holding her hand. 

This holiday season can we choose to be grateful? 
Can we enjoy the blessed feeling of having someone, anyone even if our families are smaller than we want, even if our pets are our only companions, even if we wish there was more and more and more... 

Can we just choose to be grateful? 

I relish in the enjoyment of having my family however small or big I see it to be, 
they are my people, 
they are who I have been given to love and cherish.

For them I will be make the choice to be happy. 


"I have found that, rather than dwelling on the negative, if we will take a step back and consider the blessings in our lives, including seemingly small, sometimes overlooked blessings, we can find greater happiness."
Thomas S. Monson

1 comment:

Jess and Amber said...

I totally appreciate this post. We have 1 child (totally a surprise a month after we got married) and waited a few years before we started trying again. I get very frustrated dealing with not being able to add to our family, that sometimes I forget that some people don't even have one child. My husband says that I am always trying to shove another pet into the child sized hole in my heart. (We only have two, but not for a lack of trying to take home every adorable kitten on my part) My husband also says I need to be patient, that my patriarichal (sp?) blessing refers to my childREN not just child. He says maybe I have more children in Heaven....sometimes I just don't want to be patient and wait. :)