Monday, October 29, 2012

How Does She?

I was complimented the other day by a friend. She told me my blog inspired her and she wanted to know how I remained so strong through the various trials I have been through (read Beginning Hope, if you are already confused). I was shocked to hear she felt this way, that she found me to be strong. It is almost laughable to me, because I cry all the time, I get angry all the time, I do not feel that strong, but apparently I come across that way?
 So I decided to write up some tips (and they are in no particular order) on how I am HAPPY, because I truly am, even through the various weird scenarios I have experienced at the young age of 26.

  • Be real with your emotions. Nothing makes me more frustrated with women than their attitude of trying to be perky and avoid the feelings of anger, bitterness, or sadness they feel. If you are feeling it, let yourself live out the emotion, don't press it down. 
  • Take a kick boxing class. Even if you aren't angry that day, somehow kick boxing let's you direct any and all past aggressions into the moves. Release and let it go!
  • Leave it at the gym... or mall... or park. Whatever depressive state you are in, go somewhere and leave it. Let your mind wonder, play out the various scenarios of your depressive state then LEAVE IT on the floor, or bench, or path. 
  • Allow yourself a day in bed. I am the first to admit I use this more often than I should, but lay in bed. Watch TV in bed, eat snacks in bed, whatever makes you feel rejuvenated and able to take on the world. With that said, don't lay in bed for long periods of time, gage yourself. 
  • Go to the library and check out their self help section on the topic you are feeling down about or become more educated on your situation. The only way to learn and to change is to educate ourselves, so start at your local library. 
  • Talk to people. Even if your insides are screaming, "I'm scared", "they are cuter than me", and "I may have food in my teeth"! Smile, say hello, get to know the lady at the check out counter, she may be having a much worst day or even life than you. Get to know those around you to stop focusing on yourself! 
  • This is for my believing readers, of our faith or not of our faith: read something uplifting that moves you EVERY single day. I can not stress this one enough. Reading scriptures doesn't have to just be those packed in our church bags. Scriptures are conference talks and there are thousands to choose from, so pick a topic and get uplifted! 
  • Stop wallowing in self pity. This may sound harsh, but there is always someone out there worse off than you. There are people in this world who have no clean water, no shoes for their feet, and sleep on dirt floors. Be grateful and live your life to the fullest so their lives aren't lived in vain. 
  • Speak with the elderly, some of my fondest memories are sitting in the swing on my grandmother's front porch talking one on one with a woman full of years of life experiences. 
  • Make a solid effort to recycle, give newspapers to the local Humane Society, clean out your closet and give to Good Will. 
  • Don't use phrases like "you should" or "you aren't" or "you didn't". What will those end with? They will leave you feeling regret for things you should have done, remind you of what you "aren't" and causes you to focus on what you didn't do, which you can't go back and change, so "shoulda, woulda, coulda" is a better option. This is hard for ALL of us.
"Happiness consists not of having, but of being; not of possessing, but of enjoying. It is a warm glow of the heart at peace with itself. A martyr at the stake may have happiness that a king on his throne might envy. Man is the creator of his own happiness. It is the aroma of life, lived in harmony with high ideals. For what a man has he may be dependent upon others; what he is rests with him alone." 
David O. Mckay, "Pathways to Happiness" 

Just try and relax....

What makes you happy? 


Unknown said...

Yes, yes and yes! Good advice. You are a happy person and it just goes to show how strong you are! Love you!

mary ann said...

That was me! Mare !!!!!

E said...

I love it! Seriously there are some great tips in that post and they are different enough that I think the outcome is a more balanced person able to cope with things better. I know it's cheesy, but you are my inspiration :)

Whitney Brown said...

Emily you are such a great friend, I love you dearly!

Whitney Brown said...

Haha, thanks Mare. I knew it was you all along!

Sarah said...

I love this post Whitney- thanks for sharing! It is certainly a journey to be happy, there is no way around that. You are doing a great job and you ARE strong and an inspiration!